Friday, September 9, 2011

Friends...

Lately I have been thinking about friends and friendship... maybe because my husband and I are getting ready to move (only 30 miles away, but still moving.) Since we've been here, we have been thinking this day was coming just around the corner, so we have not really put time and effort into making friends in this area (although my best friend lives here so that is great!) As it turned out, we were here for 2 years. 2 years. That's two years of my life gone and honestly I have not really tried to connect with people.
I will admit that I am not the type of person who has a lot of friends. I have a few really close friends, and when I move from an area (as has been the case 3 times since we've been married due to schooling), I only keep in touch with a handful of people. But to be honest, I am HORRIBLE at keeping in touch with friends. I have decided I only have low maintenance friendships... Friendships I can let sit for months (and possible a year!) and then get in touch with them and catch up. 

I would like to think that the craziness of my life in the last two years and the difficulties we've been having (they have occupied much of my time) will end and I will have more time to cultivate these most precious relationships in my life, as well as making more of them.

Part of me wishes I was the type of person who could make friends with anybody they came in contact with. Instead, I am introverted and think, 'if ____ and I got to know each other, I'm sure we'd be great friends.' I can actually think this about total strangers... like the woman standing in front of me at the grocery store. However, I'm more likely to be introverted and as a mom, I find that this has been amplified. I get into routines with my son until I finally reach a point where I NEED outside contact because I'm not the type of person who can be a hermit. I need others.

I think the need for outside contact is one of the reasons I started this blog in the first place, to feel that I have some contact to people outside the four walls of my residence. I have learned these types of friendships take more than I have been willing to give... and possible more than I have been able to give in the past few years. However, now that I have a more 'normal' life, I want to put the effort to develop friendships with you as my readers and my fellow bloggers. Please forgive me for my lack of putting myself out there - and help me to become better.

Thanks for reading.

1 comment:

  1. Well said - I can definitely identify with this. My husband and I are on our 5th move in just over 5 years (some close, some far) and I look forward to getting settled/moving on to a place where friendships can be developed and cherished!
    I'm also terrible at keeping in touch with people but very thankful for some low-maintenance friends who are always there! Looking forward to getting to know you better :)

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